Deciding how to spend your time

Life has felt so busy with school runs and school summer activities for the kids that writing blogs has taken a back seat. It’s been a good busy though and left me feeling that the consequences were worth it.

Brain fog has also made it a struggle to write anything that I felt was good enough to share. However, my mum has just shared a quote with me, from Chieko N. Okazaki, that I knew I wanted to save.

“Only you know your circumstances, your energy level, the needs of your children, and the emotional demands of your other obligations. Be wise during intensive seasons of your life. Cherish your agency, and don’t give it away casually. Don’t compare yourself to others — nearly always this will make you despondent. Don’t accept somebody else’s interpretation of how you should be spending your time. Make the best decision you can and then evaluate it to see how it works.”

― Chieko N. Okazaki, Lighten Up

Living with a chronic illness means I question how I spend my energy every day. I worry whether I’ve made the right choice and prioritised well. This quote has helped to remove the worry and despondency I attach to making those decisions.

Hope it helps you too 😊


Lots of Life on a Little Lot 

I met and got to know Elizabeth through reading and reviewing her wonderful book for my blog, MEcuperate. In the book , ‘Dream Accomplished: A Story of Cancer, A Mother’s Love and Taylor Swift’, she speaks a little of her work and I admit I was intrigued. Her line of work wasn’t the usual, run-of-the-mill, kind. Her family ran a wildlife garden design and install company. Elizabeth would meet with clients and design landscaping that was nature friendly and encourage wildlife. For example, they don’t use pesticides. The plants are beautiful, but helpful to wildlife, such as berries, seeds, nesting etc. Her husband would then install the garden.

“This easy care, colorful, bird & butterfly filled landscaping happily welcomes wildlife and visitors alike.”

When illness hit, in 2012, they had to sell the business, but a year ago she realised she can still help clients, online. Through the marvel of FaceTime, Skype, email or the phone clients can literally carry Elizabeth round with them or send photo’s and they receive personalised help and advice.

I love the quote on the website “By wildlife gardening together we’re all saving the world 1 little lot at a time”. My dad’s garden was designed using wildlife gardening principles. His garden is a place of therapy for those who love nature. He loves to sit and watch the wildlife that his garden encourages, and my kids have taken a great interest in the birds and their nests!

“This baby Eastern Cottontail Rabbit happily munches on the lawn clover & dandelions, never bothering our Perennials.”

The website is great and contains a lot of information to help you learn more about wildlife gardening, what it entails and its benefits.

 We have to share the land. The animals seem to be clashing with us because they’re being pushed out of “Wild” areas due to constant building and they’re relying on our landscaping, as that is mostly all that is left. By maintaining landscaping in the Traditional manner there’s no food for the animals to eat BUT the decorative landscaping. By Gardening FOR Wildlife, you share.

If you’re interested in transforming your garden to become more nature friendly, then have a look at the services Elizabeth and her family offer,

As you can see from the photos the benefits of Wildlife gardening speak for themselves. It is a beautiful way to enjoy and encourage nature, living side by side. With the Personal Wildlife Gardening Assistance offered at just $20 per hour, you can be assured of getting the help you need to make the transition, from a reliable and experienced couple:

 Owners Marc & Elizabeth Gross are BOTH Horticultural Alum from The Ohio State University & Elizabeth is also a Certified National Wildlife Federation Habitat Ambassador. They have been helping homeowners transition from traditional landscaping to nature-friendly since 1996.